Why Therapy Doesn't Work - Due to a Client
2025.03.14
Hello, I’m Tatsuya Arakawa, a licensed mental health therapist (LMFT) specializing in depression, anxiety disorders for adults, and Adult Children of Toxic Parents, and adolescents.
In a previous blog, I discussed reasons why therapy may not be working for you because of the therapist. This time, I’d like to talk more about cases where the client’s perspective can hinder the therapy process.
(1) Misunderstanding that acquiring knowledge alone will cure mental illness
Many people who have never seen a therapist mistakenly believe that gaining knowledge alone is equivalent to curing mental illness.
However, just as you would go to an orthopedic doctor for a fracture, you need to see a therapist for mental health issues. Without proper therapy, even conditions that could be treated might remain unresolved.
Moreover, even if someone attends therapy, expecting that simply acquiring knowledge from the therapist will cure their condition can become a hindrance. This overemphasis on gathering knowledge can prevent true healing, and unfortunately, many people fall into this trap such as asking too many questions to gain knowledge instead of trying to process thoughts and feelings.
(2) Believing incorrect information found on the internet
While I’ve mentioned that focusing too much on knowledge is counterproductive, acquiring accurate information is still very important. Unfortunately, the internet is flooded with misleading or false information. No matter how much accurate knowledge a therapist shares, people often feel that what they read online is more credible. This misconception can obstruct the effectiveness of therapy.
(3) Assuming what therapy should be even though you are not a therapist
Therapy is portrayed in various ways across media like television, anime, and movies. However, in most cases, these depictions are far from accurate.
When clients come into therapy expecting it to mirror what they’ve seen in media, they may become frustrated if their experience doesn’t align with those preconceived notions. This assumption about what therapy should be can inadvertently sabotage the process.
Of course, there are media portrayals that capture therapy well, but that doesn’t mean all therapists use the same methods or techniques. It’s best to avoid assuming that therapy must follow a specific mold.
In this blog, I’ve discussed cases where a client’s perspective can hinder therapy effectiveness. I hope this serves as a helpful guide.
Tatsuya Arakawa, LMFT 82425